I was driving somewhere the other day, which is so often when the best ideas pop into my head, there was some sort of programme on radio 4 about confidence and how many of us struggle with it.

Whilst I was supervising a colleague the other day I came across a word I really dislike in relation to clients and every time it comes up, it makes me feel almost physically uncomfortable . The reason I dislike the word ‘resistance’ so much is that it makes it a challenge that the client brings to the session, as part of their problem, the reason for any limited success, and my belief is that if something is not working, it’s because I am not paying attention to what the client is really bringing to me, so that I can help them. After all resistance only exists if you push back.

I was lying in bed the other night, this is traditionally where I have my best ideas, and wondering why so often I need to drive myself to do something, whether its exercise, tax return or something of that ilk and how often if I just leave it for that day or week, I feel like I am being lazy etc. and how this becomes a cycle of negative self-talk.

I have been reminded recently just how much information we can absorb and how much we have to delete in order to have the brain capacity to make sense of our world. This is because our brains would pretty much explode if we could pay attention to and remember everything that is going on around us…. For example you don’t tend to think about how your feet feel in your shoes, as that is just part of what we take for granted or delete in order to leave room for the details our mind labels as a priority.

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This weekend I was fortunate to be able to attend a workshop with Anita Moorjani, the Author of Dying to be me. This book was instrumental in me navigating my way through breast cancer last year.

I have been learning from so many sources over the last few years but this last year has changed the way I work with my clients in a more fundamental way, due to my own experiences. The journey towards self-acceptance, self-worth and self-love are so often at the root of much of the work we do together, and that has always been so, but learning about oneself and what that means can be transformational.

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